obsessive compulsive girlfriends
#82
Again, you have to see why is it that u care about these things so much.
At 21, that is way young to be handing over control of the jewels just yet.
#83
Originally Posted by scionofPCFL
Again, you have to see why is it that u care about these things so much.
At 21, that is way young to be handing over control of the jewels just yet.
Let's not make this a female claw digging into male's nuts please. Because I went through far worst and I pulled my guts together and dumped HIM.
#84
True. Then he should leave her if it bothers him so much. No one is forcing you to be with her. You love her, you accept her. you don't want to accept her, leave her.
Let's not make this a female claw digging into male's nuts please. Because I went through far worst and I pulled my guts together and dumped HIM.
Good for you for having the strength to pull out of that horrible relationship, many women and men can find it in them to do that.
#86
Originally Posted by scionofPCFL
True. Then he should leave her if it bothers him so much. No one is forcing you to be with her. You love her, you accept her. you don't want to accept her, leave her.
Let's not make this a female claw digging into male's nuts please. Because I went through far worst and I pulled my guts together and dumped HIM.
Good for you for having the strength to pull out of that horrible relationship, many women and men can find it in them to do that.
#87
wow, i can't believe i just read all 5 pages of this...haha.
but i must agree with the dangers of insecurity. it creeps into every aspect of the relationship, whether is jealousy or fear or whatever....
and in my opinion, this should not be so much about "relinqishing control", but more respecting what she wants. it all depends on how mature the relationship is. do you respect her enough to give up those things (as stated earlier, there are other sources of the info you're getting from those mags, without the half naked girls)?
but of course this has to work both ways, she should show you the same respect if theres something she's doing to bother you. men and women are wired differently, things will bother her that you think is ridiculous, and vice versa.
but she's not trying to rule your life, its something that bothers her. its not too farfetched. some girls want to know that they're the one and only.
but i must agree with the dangers of insecurity. it creeps into every aspect of the relationship, whether is jealousy or fear or whatever....
and in my opinion, this should not be so much about "relinqishing control", but more respecting what she wants. it all depends on how mature the relationship is. do you respect her enough to give up those things (as stated earlier, there are other sources of the info you're getting from those mags, without the half naked girls)?
but of course this has to work both ways, she should show you the same respect if theres something she's doing to bother you. men and women are wired differently, things will bother her that you think is ridiculous, and vice versa.
but she's not trying to rule your life, its something that bothers her. its not too farfetched. some girls want to know that they're the one and only.
#88
Originally Posted by locondcoco
life, its something that bothers her. its not too farfetched. some girls want to know that they're the one and only.
She doesn't like what you do not because she is a control freak but because it OFFENDS her as a person.
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Originally Posted by tC4italy
Originally Posted by locondcoco
life, its something that bothers her. its not too farfetched. some girls want to know that they're the one and only.
She doesn't like what you do not because she is a control freak but because it OFFENDS her as a person.
If you are checking out girls all the time in front of her, then yeah your probably a jerk and a pig.
But if she just gets mad and likes to pick a fight, then you need to revaluate the situation, what made her angry,
I used to date a girl that just like to pick fights for no reason, then when I said thats it! Im outa here....she would say, no I dont want you to leave or break up......After ten years we finnaly split up cause I woulnt change.........
A Guy stays with a girl hoping she wont change.
A Girl stays with guy that they can change!
#94
Originally Posted by tC4italy
Originally Posted by locondcoco
life, its something that bothers her. its not too farfetched. some girls want to know that they're the one and only.
She doesn't like what you do not because she is a control freak but because it OFFENDS her as a person.
My parents, for example, seem to have an agreement (although never stated in front of the kids, cuz that's creepy...) in regards to pornography. My father likes ****, my mother hates it. She doesn't seem to care about him having it as long as it isn't in plain sight and doesn't look at it when she is around. That shows mutual respect for one another.
#95
Bail dude. Your girl wants you to fight evolutionary urges. (this is just the "soft-****" magazines right? Did she want you to give up your **** stash altogether? How upset does she get when you look at other girls?)
Change comes from within. No one changes someone else with emotional blackmail.
"Change or I'm leaving" doesn't really work for anyone.
Very few people find a person who's a perfect fit for them. It's probably impossible. And thus; God invented compromise. But compromise is a 2 way street. You can't be the only one who's doing all the changing.
Is there an exchange for you giving up the magazines? If there's supposed to be compromise in the relationship, is she going to give up something that "bothers" you?
bear in mind, when people are asked to describe their ideal partner, they usually end up describing a "psychic slave". Someone who attends to them first, who takes them into consideration at all times, who takes care of their needs and wants without being asked, who can read their moods and respond accordingly. While people will say they like a little disagreement in their relationship to spice up their lives, I think they're assuming that they're always right and the other person is wrong and it's just a matter of convincing them.
Change comes from within. No one changes someone else with emotional blackmail.
"Change or I'm leaving" doesn't really work for anyone.
Very few people find a person who's a perfect fit for them. It's probably impossible. And thus; God invented compromise. But compromise is a 2 way street. You can't be the only one who's doing all the changing.
Is there an exchange for you giving up the magazines? If there's supposed to be compromise in the relationship, is she going to give up something that "bothers" you?
bear in mind, when people are asked to describe their ideal partner, they usually end up describing a "psychic slave". Someone who attends to them first, who takes them into consideration at all times, who takes care of their needs and wants without being asked, who can read their moods and respond accordingly. While people will say they like a little disagreement in their relationship to spice up their lives, I think they're assuming that they're always right and the other person is wrong and it's just a matter of convincing them.
#96
Originally Posted by Skeorx13
Originally Posted by tC4italy
Originally Posted by locondcoco
life, its something that bothers her. its not too farfetched. some girls want to know that they're the one and only.
She doesn't like what you do not because she is a control freak but because it OFFENDS her as a person.
My parents, for example, seem to have an agreement (although never stated in front of the kids, cuz that's creepy...) in regards to pornography. My father likes ****, my mother hates it. She doesn't seem to care about him having it as long as it isn't in plain sight and doesn't look at it when she is around. That shows mutual respect for one another.
Yr not a girl YOU don't know how she feels or her reasonings behind it
#97
You aren't her either, so you don't know her reasonings either. I highly doubt he needs them to get excited. (I am a guy, so yes I do know this.) Unless he's ignoring her because of them, there is no reason for her behavior.
#98
Originally Posted by Skeorx13
You aren't her either, so you don't know her reasonings either. I highly doubt he needs them to get excited. (I am a guy, so yes I do know this.) Unless he's ignoring her because of them, there is no reason for her behavior.
that's what I meant not as in to get hard.
And I've went through this so yes I do know.
#99
Ive been with mine for 5 years...and she still pulls the same crap. Its like "Hun I come home to you every night...I just got an autograph NOTHING HAPPENED!!" But that dont matter..if she gets jealous.. we're doing good. If she gets ____ed we've got 2 couches. If she doesnt get worried...then somethings up.